Yes, you can find INFP who is an actual workaholic and overachiever in something but who also doesn’t even care much about but still identifies with. This comes from having Te that is insecure, triggered by something, having it threatened. This can happen in childhood, having self worth somehow lessened and now feeling the need to be respected, well educated, best at something. INFP will want to have everything under his control and will be very stressed when he cannot fix things even independent on him, because after all, that Te thing is linked to Fi identity and values. I am describing here an unhealthy INFP of course, so don’t think please that it some general theory about this type.
So, is it bad to achieve things? Absolutely not! It is an aspiration of a healthy INFP to achieve something huge and important in life, to contribute to something good, to help others with their vision and knowledge, give them love and light. But this is exactly the point. INFP has to achieve and overachieve maybe (!) having in mind intention coming from Fi, and not from fear of being inferior at work and thus inferior in general, (Te linked with Fi, which is INFP first, most important function).
Healthy way for INFP is to go with functions as the order goes, Fi, Ne, Si and then build up a healthy Te goal and achieve it based on what Ne concepts / new things that Fi valued were experienced / learnt in past with gathered knowledge Si. Te is inspirational and healthy when it comes from heart, experience and gathered knowledge. It becomes unhealthy when INFP skips the Ne, Si and goes to Te hoping to make Fi happy with himself and feel better.
Every time when INFP chooses a new career, he has of course a goal, desire to be good at it, and it is right, let’s call it subgoal, this shouldn’t be linked though, my dear INFP, to your identity, Fi. Remember, this is just a process when you learn. You go for new Ne, you learn new things and gather experience Si. This is awesome! These are pieces that will help you identify your bigger goal, Te, that you want to achieve, rules that you will set for world, vision that you will design and will be implemented. You have to learn before how world operates, so don’t get discouraged and don’t feel bad when first Te subgoals are not perfectly achieved. These are just subgoals and are meant to gain experience and learn about the objective world. Remember, learn how the world REALLY is, learn Te, this you can do with your subgoals.
I really wouldn’t like you to stick to illusions and reject Te. We are scared of Te, we don’t like it, but this is the key to success. Small subgoals Te first, they teach how world looks like, we move to another Ne and learn more Si, we start to make sense of how world really is Te and can create a real goal for us, what is achievable and important for us.
Go, my beautiful INFPs, be strong and don’t get discouraged.
Every sign has the potential for greatness or weakness.
Depending on where we are on our journey, we move between low and high
functioning. No matter where you are now- we all have the ability to reach ‘the
high’ :)
Even if you don’t have a Pisces Sun, If you have any kind of
significant Pisces influence, this may be applicable.
High: Creative, expressive, and inspired. A high-functioning
Pisces is self-aware and assured, as well as able to compassionately relate to
and truly understand every other living being. They embody unconditional love
and can heal others simply by being in their presence. Immense intuition. With
their unearthly imagination they are able to create outstanding, moving works
of art that can transcend the limitations of human consciousness. They possess
the ability to create dreams into reality. Their perception on the world is
filled with gratitude, excitement, and spiritual depth. Their emotional honesty
and vulnerability create joyful environments and are able to inspire. They possess the ability to both be
humorous/light-hearted and also serious/powerful. They are silent leaders who
attract attention because of their strong spirit.
Moderate: They deeply desire to turn their
daydreams into a reality. They have boundless creativity, excitement for new
experiences, and a kind heart. They heighten their real life experience through
living in their imagination, some detachment is likely. They become emotional
sponges and absorb the moods of anyone around them and unconsciously
self-sacrifice out of desire to help others. They want to bring peace to the
world. They fully let go of any judgments, but lose self-discernment and may
get involved in dangerous situations. May become emotionally avoidant or in
denial. May become manipulative, liars, and “shape-shifters” in order to
receive a desired result (usually out of a good intention). May feel they are
different then others, special somehow. Self-indulgence, hypersensitivity,
insecurity, and anxiety begin to emerge.
Low: Full lack of sense of self, they avoid reality. Weak and
need constant validation. From feelings of despair and hopelessness may become
abusive to themselves. Fully absorbed in escapism: Addiction to something is very likely. Delusions may occur.
Self-hatred is strong; may blame everyone else and become immature and
offensive. Avoidant depression, unstable mood swings (Bi-polarism), impulsive
obsessive behavior, overdoses, and even suicidal thoughts/action become likely.
